I am under my second quarantine of the year. My job is closed down temporarily again. In some ways this is great because I have a lot of time to develop my game-- but also difficult because I genuinely miss the social aspect of work.
For my day job, I work in a gym. The state policy is wear a mask inside at all times. Maybe 5% customers get pissy about the mask policy, but almost everyone complies. (FUN FACT! The average complaint is by some average person claiming "its hard to workout in a mask" while I workout INFINITELY harder than them, wearing the mask the entire time)
Occasionally people forget to put it on. Whatever. I remind them to do it and they pleasantly accede.
However, on occasion one person will deliberately not wear it. These people are repeat offenders. Our policy is to kick out everyone who is a repeat offender. The repeat offenders are given warnings, final warnings, and then "kicked out".
I have become something of an enforcer- I kick offenders out.
Personally, I lack sympathy for offenders because I've lost several friends and clients this year due to COVID. When an elderly client calls you from the hospital, slowly dying alone and you hear the terror in their voice as they fear the end, public hygiene behavior becomes VERY personal.
Every last repeat offender tries to fight me (psychologist friend tells me these people have Oppositional Defiant Disorder) I have been pushed. I have been screamed at. Some get in my face. I have been called a "sheeple", a "snowflake". I have been told I am "brainwashed by liberal propaganda", I have been threatened. I was deliberately coughed on. Told the virus "isn't real". Called a "mask nazi". Called every name in the book. Every single offender told me they would fight me in the parking lot. Yet despite all the posturing, they eventually leave.
Paradoxically, I understand where they are coming from. During the first quarantine I generally felt the same way they do. But I was living in a bubble. I did my research and realized my presumptions were simply knee-jerk reactions. I know the offenders are wrong, and I know why they are wrong. But I can't convince them they are wrong
(OH, The Pains of Intelligence)
This has happened 11 times in person, and many more over the phone. Perhaps the most ironic part is that these people fit one of two profiles: The Degenerate and The Conservative.
(Before you get mad at me, this is NOT a political post, but a psychological observation)
I can't be too upset about degenerates. What do you expect from people with criminal records that are hopeless victims of the opioid epidemic and ride bicycles in their 30s because they lost their license drunk driving? Not much.
The conservatives have a psychological profile that is rigid and paranoid. Perhaps the most annoying and paradoxical frustration I've experienced is that I allied myself with these people for a long time. These were supposed to be MY people, yet reality has a funny way of creeping in on you. They are mostly unable to think about complex (3D) issues, due to their (2D) approach. They don't think: "here is a cascading series of factors that interplay and affect each other" they think "this is good", or "this is bad". Is this all of them? No. But it is a lot of them
My average bad customer
I have begun confronting strangers in public places (ike the grocery store) about their behavior as well. I am yelled at typically. I ask them why they don't care about the elderly at risk, but receive no response. Just anger. My friends believe I have developed trauma being abused by the public.
COVID has sent people into paranoid delusions, primitive states of mind, and generally brought forth the ugliness hiding away in the hearts of our fellow man.
We often think there is some big bad "evil" to blame: China, Russia, the Elite, the Bankers, the Royals, Astral Demons in the 13th dimension. Maybe these things are to blame partially, I don't know. But one thing I did learn:
Almost always the real evil appears in our fellow man.
On a positive note, every bystander thanks me privately after dealing with the offenders. I feel personally gratified doing the right thing, as hard as it is.
COVID has certainly been an interesting time so far, to say the least. Thanks for reading my rant lmao